Sexual Health and Wellness for Women and for Men: There is no expiration date on a healthy sex life
I once received an anonymous letter at my office which changed my practice. As a urologist for 30 years, I have spent much of my career devoted to helping men with erectile dysfunction. It was after helping a man that I received the “anonymous” letter. Like a frightening ransom note, the letters were cut and pasted from magazines. The author was pleading with me to stop helping because, as a wife with her own difficulties, she was unable to participate in sex. She went on to question: what could I possibly offer to help her?
Well, what could I do? I immediately started to educate myself about the often ignored subject of female sexual dysfunction. Because half of my patients are women, I began to include an open-ended question about sexual health as part of a routine medical history. Suddenly, I was listening to multiple stories from women about their desires and concerns that had gone unmentioned for years or decades. More importantly, they were relieved and excited that a doctor should actually ask and be interested in their sexual health. The origins of the problems were varied, but the common goal was to restore a wonderful but missing part of their life.